Dating and relationships hypnotherapy in London and online

It is individual hypnotherapy focused on how you feel and respond in dating or relationships. Sessions may work on nerves, self-doubt, fear of rejection, jealousy or moving on after a breakup. We agree goals that concern your confidence and choices, rather than trying to change another person.

Hypnotherapy can help you work on the worry and tension that make dating difficult. We may rehearse arriving at a date, having a conversation or coping with uncertainty. The aim is to feel more present and comfortable being yourself, with progress reviewed against your own goals.

We can use imagery and therapeutic suggestions to practise a calmer approach to first dates. This might include reducing self-criticism, allowing ordinary pauses and remembering that you are also deciding whether you enjoy the other person’s company. Confidence does not require a flawless performance.

Yes. We can explore what happens before you cancel, such as fear of judgement or feeling overwhelmed. Sessions can support manageable steps towards dating if that is what you want. You remain free to decline a date or slow down when that is the right choice for you.

Sessions can focus on overthinking messages, checking for replies or feeling discouraged by apps. We can work on calmer reactions and practical boundaries around checking and messaging. The aim is to make your choices less driven by anxiety, rather than to keep you on apps you do not enjoy.

We can work on separating someone else’s decision from your sense of worth. Hypnosis may be used to rehearse responding to disappointment with more steadiness and self-respect. Rejection can still hurt, but it need not determine how you see yourself or every future relationship.

Yes. We can rehearse everyday conversations and work on the pressure to impress. Feeling more at ease can leave more room for curiosity and listening. If these worries also affect work, friendships or social events, we can discuss the broader pattern of social anxiety.

No. You can enquire while single, considering dating again or simply wanting to feel more secure in yourself. Goals might include understanding avoidance, strengthening boundaries or deciding what you want. You do not need to start dating before you feel ready.

Relationship anxiety describes ongoing worry about a relationship, such as repeatedly fearing rejection, analysing messages or needing reassurance. It can occur even when things seem to be going well. We also consider whether there are real concerns that deserve attention, rather than treating every doubt as anxiety.

Sessions can help you practise noticing worry without following every possible explanation. We may work on tolerating uncertainty, reducing self-criticism and pausing before seeking reassurance. The goal is a more considered response while still paying attention to important information about the relationship.

Hypnotherapy can address anxiety and self-doubt that contribute to jealousy. We can practise calmer responses, respectful communication and boundaries around checking. Feeling jealous does not justify controlling a partner; the work focuses on how you manage your own feelings and behaviour.

Yes. We can explore the hurt and watchfulness that remain after betrayal, and what you need to feel safer now. The aim is to support your judgement and boundaries, not to persuade you to trust someone. Trust can grow through consistent behaviour and your own decisions over time.

Sessions can focus on the fear and reassurance-seeking that arise when you worry someone will leave. We may practise tolerating time apart and building steadier self-worth. Your experiences and current circumstances guide the work, without assuming one explanation fits everyone.

We can work on particular reactions associated with attachment worries, such as pulling away, becoming very anxious or repeatedly seeking reassurance. Attachment language can be a useful way to describe patterns, but it is not a fixed identity. We focus on practical changes rather than promising a new attachment label.

The aim is to strengthen your judgement and ability to respond, not to dismiss concerns. We can distinguish habitual worry from behaviour that conflicts with your needs or boundaries. If you feel frightened, controlled or unsafe, specialist support for relationship abuse is appropriate.

Yes. These are individual appointments, so your partner does not need to attend. We work on your experiences, choices and responses. Your partner’s involvement in other support is a separate decision; hypnotherapy cannot make someone else change.

Sessions can explore the anxiety or urge to withdraw that appears when a relationship becomes closer. We may rehearse communicating your needs and making decisions with less pressure. The goal is clarity and choice, whether that means moving closer, slowing down or deciding a relationship is not right.

Hypnotherapy can support coping with the worry, loss of confidence and repetitive thinking that can follow a breakup. We focus on rebuilding routines and a sense of yourself. There is no timetable for grief, and sessions do not require you to stop caring or feel ready to date immediately.

Yes. Sessions can focus on confidence, boundaries and the uncertainty of returning to dating after divorce. We can work at your pace and explore what you want from future relationships. You do not need to repeat the expectations or choices of your previous relationship.

We can work on how you respond when thoughts about an ex arise, especially if checking or replaying conversations is taking over your day. The aim is to make room for other parts of life. Hypnosis does not erase memories, but it can support practising a different response to them.

Yes. We can explore the fear behind saying yes when you mean no and rehearse expressing preferences respectfully. The goal is greater confidence in your own needs and boundaries. You can care about someone while still making choices that protect your wellbeing.

Mental rehearsal can help you practise a conversation before having it, including noticing tension and expressing a clear request. We can work on the anxiety around disagreement or disappointing someone. The other person’s response remains outside your control, so boundaries and realistic expectations matter too.

Sessions can help you notice familiar reactions and the situations that bring them out. We can explore expectations, self-worth and boundaries, then rehearse different choices. The emphasis is on understanding what happens now, without blaming you for another person’s behaviour or assuming a hidden cause.

No. My hypnotherapy sessions work with you as an individual. Couples counselling provides a setting for partners to address relationship difficulties together. The two approaches may serve different needs, and we can discuss whether individual work fits what you are hoping to change.

Hypnosis involves focused attention and may feel calm, absorbed or similar to daydreaming. Experiences vary, and you do not have to feel deeply relaxed for the session to be useful. You can speak, move or stop, and you remain involved in the process.

Yes. Hypnotherapy is a collaborative process. You can decline a suggestion, ask questions or end the exercise. We agree what you want to work on beforehand, and you are not required to share information or pursue a relationship decision that you do not want.

No. We discuss enough to understand your goals, relevant circumstances and suitability for the work. You choose what you feel comfortable sharing. My solution-focused approach concentrates on how you want life to feel and the steps that can help you move towards that.

No. Sessions work with your own confidence, emotions and behaviour. They cannot control another person’s feelings or choices. The aim is to help you approach relationships with more self-respect and clarity, including recognising when interest or compatibility is not mutual.

Yes. A 2019 meta-analysis by Valentine and colleagues reviewed 17 trials and found benefits for anxiety, particularly when hypnosis was combined with other psychological approaches. The findings concern anxiety relief, which can be a relevant goal when dating or relationship worries are causing distress.

The best fit is personal. Look for recognised qualifications, clear explanations and a practitioner with whom you feel comfortable discussing sensitive concerns. Rapport matters. You can try my free relaxation audio to hear my voice and contact me to discuss your goals before deciding whether to book.

You are welcome to discuss dating or relationship concerns whatever your gender, sexual orientation or relationship status. Sessions focus on your experiences and goals without assuming one type of relationship is right for everyone. We can discuss your needs and whether my approach feels suitable.

It may be possible to combine approaches when their purposes are clear and they fit your needs. Let me know about other support so we can discuss how the work sits together. Individual hypnotherapy can focus on anxiety or confidence while counselling addresses other concerns.

I offer appointments at City Hypnotherapy Centre, Longcroft House, 2–8 Victoria Avenue, London EC2M 4NS, a short walk from Liverpool Street station. You can contact me to discuss your goals and arrange an initial consultation. Online appointments are also available.

Yes. Private individual sessions are available online by Zoom. Choose a quiet, comfortable place where you can speak freely and will not be interrupted. We can discuss practical arrangements before your appointment, including privacy and a reliable connection.

A session costs £198, including VAT, and lasts approximately 50 minutes. Your first appointment includes hypnosis as well as the consultation. Appointments are available near Liverpool Street in London or online by Zoom.

We discuss what you would like help with, your current circumstances and the changes you hope to make. I explain the approach and we agree suitable goals. The first appointment includes hypnosis as well as the consultation, so you can experience the process from the start.

The number varies with your goals, circumstances and progress. We review how the work is helping rather than promising a fixed number for everyone. At your initial appointment, we can discuss a suitable starting approach and how to assess whether it is meeting your needs.

Yes. You receive a personalised recording of your session to use between appointments. We can agree a manageable listening routine to support practice. Listen only in a safe place where you can relax, never while driving, cycling or operating machinery.

Yes. My free 30-minute relaxation recording lets you hear my voice and experience a guided relaxation exercise. It can help you decide whether the style feels comfortable. It is a general recording, while individual sessions are tailored to your concerns and goals.

Contact me through the website, call 07973 896907 or email susannah@cityhypno.co.uk. Tell me briefly what you would like help with and whether you prefer London or online appointments. We can discuss the approach and appointment availability before you book.